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书名：Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
作者：John Gray
起始部份：第二章第三节下
Instead of being goal oriented, women are relationship oriented; they are more concerned with expressing their goodness, their love, their caring.
Venusians are very ___1____. They pride themselves in being considerate of the needs and feelings of others. A sign of great love is to offer help and assistance to another Venusian without even being asked.
Because proving one's competence is not as important to a Venusian, offering help is not __2____, and needing help is not a sign of weakness. A man, however, may feel offended when a woman offers advice he doesn't feel she trusts his ability to do it himself.
A woman has no conception of this male ___3___ because for her it is another feather in her hat if someone offers to help her. ____4____句子听写. But offering help to a man can make him feel incompetent, weak, and even unloved.
When a woman tries to improve a man, he feels she is trying to fix him, she is trying to change him. He receives the message that he is broken. She doesn't realize her caring attempts to help him may actually __5____ him. She mistakenly thinks she is just helping him to grow.
参考译文：（于海生）
一言以蔽之：女人不以目标和结果为终极，她更关心情感交流的过程。她更愿意以此展示她的爱，她的关心，她的美德。两个火星人一同就餐，就要讨论一个项目，一种计划，恨不能借就餐之际，将事关国计民生的重大问题解决。因此，火星人外出就餐，往往带有强烈的动机，明确的目的。至少，他可以不必选购，不必烹调，不必洗碗。他喜欢将时间和精力节省下来，直奔他的主题。
既然与火星人相比，金星人决不过分看重所谓“个人能力”，因此，主动为火星人提供帮助，在金星人看来，没有任何冒犯之嫌——接受帮助，不意味着软弱和无能。她的火星人——男人却不这样想。女人擅自给他建议或主张，男人就会觉得，这是对方不信任他，怀疑他无法独立地做事。就这样，男人的尊严遭到了侵犯。
男人为什么这样敏感？女人愤愤不平！在女人的感觉里，要是有人主动帮助，她才求之不得呢！那是天上掉馅饼的惊喜，那也等于是在女人多姿多彩的帽子上，格外插上了一朵美丽的羽毛，女人就会沾沾自喜。她感受到的是爱，是重视，是珍惜。换成是男人就不一样了。女人自作主张的帮助，让男人怀疑自己是否无能和软弱。他甚至产生自卑心理，觉得自己不可爱，不值得女人的爱。
男人的顾虑和忧惧，女人常常毫无察觉。想想看，女人好心好意，为男人指点迷津，却让他大为屈辱，真是吃力不讨好。男人认为他必然出现“破损”，你才企图修理他，改造他。而你也错误地以为，你是在帮助他的成长与进步。
