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书名：Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
作者：John Gray
起始部份：第二章第五节上
For example, Mary comes home from an ___1____ day. She wants and needs to share her feelings about the day.
She says, "There is so much to do; I don't have any time for myself."
Tom says, "You should quit that job. You don't have to work so hard. Find something you like to do."
Mary says, "But I like my job. They just expect me to change everything at a moment's notice."
Tom says, "Don't listen to, just do what you can do."
Mary says, "I am! I can't believe I completely forgot to call my aunt today."
Tom says, "Don't worry about it, she'll understand."
Mary says, "Do you know what she is going through? She needs me."
Tom says, "You worry too much, that's why you're so unhappy."
Mary angrily says, "I am not always unhappy. Can't you just listen to me?"
Tom says, "I am listening."
Mary says, "Why do I even __2____?"
After this conversation, Mary was more frustrated than when she arrived home seeking ___3___ and companionship. Tom was also frustrated and had no idea what went wrong. He wanted to help, but his problem solving ____4____ didn't work.
Without knowing about life on Venus, Tom didn't understand how important it was just to listen without offering solutions. His solutions only made things worse. You see, __5____句子听写. When Tom heard about the Venusians and how much they needed to talk, he gradually learned how to listen.
参考译文：（于海生）
玛丽忙碌了一天，神情倦怠地回到家里。她渴望同丈夫交流，抒发心中的感受。
玛丽："眼下，我要做的事情太多太多。我的私人时间少得可怜！"
汤姆："你还是放弃那份工作吧，何必让自己如此辛苦呢？你应当做你想做的事！"
玛丽："可是我喜欢自己的工作。问题在于，大家对我期望值很高，希望我在短时间内改变一切！"
汤姆："不要听他们的。做你能做的就是了！"
玛丽："我知道。对了，你知道吗，我今天忘记了给姨妈打电话！真不知我是怎么搞的！"
汤姆："别担心！你那样忙，她会理解的。"
玛丽："可你不知道，她究竟出了什么问题。她真的需要我！"
汤姆："你也太操心了，所以才不快乐。"
玛丽（生气地）："我只是偶尔不快乐。你可不可以不插嘴，听我把话说完？"
汤姆（不高兴）："你还要我怎么样呢？我不是一直在听你说话吗？"
玛丽（心烦意乱地摇摇头）："可我为什么还是那样苦恼呢？"
这场谈话后，玛丽感觉更加沮丧。这可不是她想要的结果。她回家看见汤姆，就想从丈夫那里，感受到关心和体贴。然而，她的希望成了泡影。汤姆事后心情也不好。他不知什么地方出了差错。他很想帮妻子分忧。他还指出了问题的症结，他的努力却没有奏效！
汤姆不了解金星人的生活。他不知道，专注、耐心地倾听，对玛丽多么重要！他试图为玛丽的"病因"把脉诊断，却使局面更糟。其实，他只要扮演好倾听者的角色，就万事大吉了，何等简单啊！当然，他的倾听，应当带着感激、体贴和深情。金星人的倾吐，应当在他的心里引起共鸣。为此，他应该理解对方的感受，体会对方的心情。
